Another example for “feminism ruins everything”: Linux

Life in the OpenSource world before and after feminism, as seem by a female:
Girls and Software | Linux Journal.

Most of all, I’m disappointed. I had a haven, a place where no one cared what I looked like, what my body was like or about any ephemera—they cared about what I could do—and this culture shift has robbed me of my haven. At least I had that haven. The girls who follow me missed out on it.

I remember in those early days, in my haven, if someone was rude or tried to bully me, the people around me would pounce with a resounding “How dare you be mean to someone we like!” Now, if a man behaves badly, we’re bogged down with a much more complex thought process: “Did this happen because she’s a woman?” “Am I white knighting if I step in?” “Am I a misogynist if I don’t?” “What does this say about women in technology?” “Do I really want to be part of another gender politics mess?” It was so much simpler when we didn’t analyze so much, and just trounced on mean people for being mean.

About the Falsehood of ignoring the full picture

Warning, sort of: If you do not know The Big Bang Theory, this post will be lost on you.

I was always skeptical about the american habit of playing pranks on your buddies. Most examples I found on youtube seemed mainly mean-spirited and occasionally downright dangerous, like placing metal buckets of whitewash on an almost closed door.

I got to reconsider after watching the episode “The Prestidigitation Approximation” (s04e18) of TBBT. Howard invents a magic trick with an absurdly simple solution of the kind that Sheldon will never guess. And then he nudges Sheldon into the challenge to find out the trick.
One reason this prank works is that it is inherently linked to Sheldon’s arrogant and at the same time quite limited personality. If he wasn’t convinced he was God’s greatest gift to humanity it would not be funny. But, also, it would not work.

Why does this change anything about my feelings about pranks?

Is this prank mean? Yes, absolutely.
Would I object if someone told me about the prank like this: “Two ‘friends’ goad a person into wasting an enormous amount of time and even get into trouble with the law, so they can snicker behind his back”?
Yes, of course.
And that description is not wrong per se.

But.
It misses some important points.
For one Sheldon regularly is an enormous pain in the derriere to his friends due to exactly those traits that make him fall for the prank. The prank to some degree is well earned revenge.

And the harm is done by Sheldon himself to 100%. The minute he’d stop being unbearably arrogant the prank would be over.

What has this to do with this blog?

Just this: occasionally the correct reaction to “They are mean to another person” is “Oh, good.” or “Yeah. So?” and not “#outrage!”

Remember this the next time you have a discussion with a feminist, those champions of not painting the entire picture.

“Why I need feminism” … really?

I have wondered for years why people adopt ideologies. What is the charm, the motivation?
This is a new attempt of mine to get to grips with it, by taking a look at the reasons people give for their ideology on http://whoneedsfeminism.tumblr.com.

Victims

I need feminism because my voice as a survivor should be empowered not silenced”

What she wants: “I want my story to be heard”

Understandable.

What she ignores: Her story may well destroy the life of another person. Nobody except her knows if her story is a lie. Too many people lie about stories like hers. It is not a good idea to destroy a person’s life over something that is not true. Nobody but her knows if her story is true. Everyone else needs to be careful.

What other people think

I need feminism so I can get tattoos in places that are considered ‘for tramps.’ Like my hips, breasts, and lower back. My body should be mine to ink as I please.”

What she wants: “I want to do whatever I want (as long as it does not harm others)”

What she ignores: Her body is hers to ink as she pleases. Nobody is preventing her.
On the other hand it is everyone else’s freedom to think what they want. It is not her right to prescribe reactions.

What she probably means: “Do not judge me negatively”

What she ignores: Chosen surfaces are important. When you get tattoos you tell something to the world. That something may be misunderstood and possibly will be disapproved by some.
Free speech comes with free disagreement. There is no other way.

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I need feminism because, upon telling people my career plans and that I specialise in felinology, I have been told that I shouldn’t be doing a zoology degree if all I plan to do with it is become a ‘crazy cat lady’. I find it insulting that people feel they can overlook everything I have just said and reduce my worth and passion in my chosen career to an archaic female stereotype.”

What she wants: a) “I don’t want others to make fun of me, even when I am saying something unusual.” or b) “I want female stereotypes to vanish.” or c) “I want a world in which I can get by without a sense of humour.”

Probably a mixture of all three.

What she ignores:
If the reported reaction was indeed not a joke, the other person was an idiot. I do not know how she wants to rid the world of idiots. Euthanasia, perhaps?
If, on the other hand, it was a joke, her entire hopes lies with c). She’s backing the right horse, there. Feminism is working hard to rid the world of humour.
If it is b) the joke question doesn’t enter into it. The open question is if the human mind can actually work without stereotypes.

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I need feminism because when I confronted a guy that shamed me for rejecting him, he was praised by both genders, while I was called names and a drama starter.”

Difficult to say, having only her side of the story…

What she wants: “I am never wrong, I never overreact, so I want people to be always on my side.”

What she ignores: Was that really what happened?

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I need feminism because when I went to the pharmacy alone to get a pregnancy test, the lady asked me where the baby’s father was. I should not have to feel ashamed to buy a pregnancy test. Ever. ”

What she wants: “Nobody is allowed to give me the impression I was doing something wrong that has to do with sexuality.”

What she ignores: The father of a child is important, indeed. And if having that pointed out shames you, maybe part of you thinks so, too.

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I need feminism because I am plus sized and want to be seen as a beautiful individual in the ‘eyes’ of our society!”

What she wants: “I want society to change so I don’t have to.”

What she ignores: Most of the biology of attraction.

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I need feminism because… I want to be complimented on my work ETHIC, not my work ATTIRE”

What she ignores: People, women too, are mostly complimented on what is remarkable about them. Maybe her attire is more remarkable than her ethic? Who am I to know.

Gender roles

I need FEMINISM because when I was 7 years old I wanted to go play outside with my shirt off like the boys were doing, but I was stopped because “THAT ISN’T WHAT GIRLS DO”. I didn’t look any different to them at that age…”

What she wants: either a) “Stop treating female sexuality different than male sexuality.” or b) “Stop treating children as if they had a sexuality.”

Since I don’t see what b) has to do with feminism, I’ll assume a)

What she ignores: Heterosexual (i.e. most) men and women DO have quite different sexualities and ways to react to the bodies of the opposite gender. There is plenty of evidence that this is not learned but biologically given.
People who do not learn about these differences or learn too late, run a risk of getting hurt or hurting others.

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I need feminism because my friend’s daughter is being called a slut for “having too many boyfriends” throughout the year. SHE’S 11.”

Same as above.

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I need feminism because the first time I met my friend’s parents, I was SURPRISED and CONFUSED that her dad stayed at home and her mom is an executive with a six-figure salary.
I was raised in a relatively traditional family—dad works, mom stays at home (though she has a job teaching now)—but this shouldn’t be startling to anyone.”

What she wants: a) “I want things that rarely happen to stop being surprising” or b) “I want that at least every third woman likes to work hard full time (at least 40 hours) on her job and is attracted to a man who runs the home”

Again, only b) has anything to do with feminism.

What she ignores: Working full time to feed your family that you do not see very much because you are working is quite hard. Why would at least every third woman want to do that?

What she hopes for: When women work full time, that means working about 32 hours a week and still earning enough for four.

What she ignores: This is quite unrealistic.

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I need feminism because I shouldn’t be told by a six year old that I act like a boy because I don’t like wearing dresses or skirts.”

Same as the tattoo-girl, really.

What she ignores: Acting like a boy is a good thing. 🙂

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I need feminism because my gender identity and my gender expression are mine and no one else’s. So no one should be able to say that I am a man if I don’t want them to. I am neither a man, nor a woman, and I don’t care about gender roles!”

What it ignores: How are others to know that it has decided to have no gender? Should we abandon the words “man”, “woman”, “he”, “she” that almost all people identify with just so some small minority has to perform slightly less mental arithmetic?

Bad influences

I need feminism because a local online shop run by a girl sells “Cool Story, Babe” sweaters and hoodies for girls. ”

What she wants: “I want to censor what others are allowed to do.”

What she ignores: Free speech and free thought is good. Censorship isn’t. Even if that means that some people do or say stuff that you do not approve of.

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I’m bored now

All of these have a terribly naive view of the world, see no connections but only their own small gripes.
And somehow The Chosen One or Religion or Ideology X will solve all their problems for them so they don’t have to themselves.

But then: Anyone willing to hold up a sign “why I need ..” to the internet would also be willing to have her picture taken with a monkey on one arm and an oversized cheque in the other.
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Conversations you don’t want to have…

Non Sequitur Comic Strip, August 04, 2013 on GoComics.com.

Why – short of a collapse of the system – feminism won’t die out

There are a few theories that try to explain why religion is so prevalent in all cultures in spite of all the logical impossibilities of practically any religion.
One observes that religion gives stability. Not only stability through membership in a group, but also by offering the Truth.

The more insecure you are in yourself the more enticing the promise of Truth becomes.

Most religions (and even most philosophies) claim to know the Truth.

Some like Daoism are rather vague: “There is a proper way to live but it’s not down to simple rules but depends on who, what and where you are. Be open to Everything and you might see at any given time what is the Way”.
You have to be rather stable yourself to build on that. All responsibility, after all, lies entirely on yourself.

Buddhism is similar but contains a promise. It promises that you may someday overcome all the ills of the world. The responsibility is still all yours. Thus, if you choose not to believe in the Buddha, that’s entirely OK. It’s your life after all and you harm mostly yourself.

Christianity on the other hand starts with the assumption that you are total crap* and only because God loves you anyways the stituation is not completely hopeless. You can’t save yourselves. Only God can save you. But he won’t unless you ardently believe in him and try to please him as much as you can. By adhering to the rules of a canon of contradicting scripture.

This is an interesting concept. It’s self-perpetuating. “What I tell you is the Truth! Believe me and you shall be saved. I’ll tell you things that logically contradict each other. Thus you may stay confused. But ‘confused’ is good! Logic is bad. Believing gives you certainty. Keep believing.”

As long as you believe you are absolved.

Feminism functions along similar lines.

It spends an enormous amount of effort to keep young people (girls, women) confused and afraid.

It tells them that any female is in immense danger of being oppressed, mutilated, raped, assaulted and discriminated against. But there is nothing the individual can do about it. The single female is too weak to cope with the world. She has no agency. She can only be saved in the long term by becoming a feminist herself.

It tells them that all men are bad, evil and dangerous. This is not much of a problem for a lesbian. But imagine the confusion in a girl that was taught to fear all men when she starts to physically long for them. Especially should she realize that it’s the big, strong men that give her the hots and not the small inoffensive ones.

Confusion galore. Where to turn to? To the dispenser of all truth and wisdom of course.

Browse through feminist tumblrs to see more confusion and clouded minds than I ever had thought possible.

Feminism has an interesting advantage over Christianity for the poor confused princess: Absolution is granted a priori due to the simple possession of the magic XX.
Where Chistianity tells you that you are crap be default and only through believe-work can you redeem yourself, feminism tells you that by being female alone you are good and innocent. Not you are bad but the world is bad. More to the point: The world as created by men is bad.

Is there better balm for a confused princess’s soul than someone telling you “It’s not your fault. Nothing is your fault. But you can change everything. Just sign here.”

How lucky for feminism that following would keep anyone confused.

*) If you need a source, just skim through Martin Luther’s 95 Theses.

Is any system of “sin” ever coherent?

I am not cut out to be a Christian.

But the long story…

I do enjoy reading Matt Forney’s blog. I think he’s mostly weird, very american (which for a european like me equals weird on occasion) but mostly original and sharp.
From his post I happened upon this blog, where someone says (my emphasis):

Look, I know that many, many men and boys spend too much time gaming. There are also many, many men and boys who spend too much time watching television, playing golf, or obsessing over sports (and sometimes all of the above) — you name the diversion, and you’ll find people who indulge in excess. But it’s a category error to equate games and porn. To do so exaggerates the danger of games and minimizes the evil of porn. So if I stay up too late Saturday night playing Diablo 3 (and I probable will!), is that remotely comparable to downloading porn? Simply put, overuse of video games is destructive. Any use of porn is sinful. What’s next? An article proclaiming that women are ruined by adultery and Pinterest?

I do not get it. Seriously. What is the logical or scriptural basis for condemning porn but hailing games, aggressive ones at that?

To wallow in my layman’s cluelessness, the seven deadly sins are:

  • Pride
  • Lust
  • Gluttony
  • Greed
  • Sloth
  • Wrath
  • Envy

Wikipedia adds some comments (emphasis mine):

Lust or lechery is an intense desire. It is usually thought of as excessive sexual wants, however the word was originally a general term for desire. Therefore lust could involve the intense desire of money, fame, or power as well.

Sloth (Latin, Socordia) can entail different vices. While sloth is sometimes defined as physical laziness, spiritual laziness is emphasized. Failing to develop spiritually is key to becoming guilty of sloth. In Christian faith, sloth rejects grace and God.
Sloth has also been defined as a failure to do things that one should do. By this definition, evil exists when good men fail to act.

[Pride] is identified as a desire to be more important or attractive than others, failing to acknowledge the good work of others, and excessive love of self (especially holding self out of proper position toward God).

I mention these only to indicate that in my book, if watching porn or playing computer games are sinful at all, they both are.

Porn yields only to Lust, obviously so. Gaming, especially online games, yields to Sloth (you have to fetch far to argue for spiritual development through gaming), Lust (the fame of being good) and Pride (in being better than others).

This is just another example why I have a problem with ideologies that try to formulate stern systems of Sin, be it “Thou shalt fornicate” or “Thou shalt not be sexist (unless you are a woman)”.

The only General Rule I can think of would be “Thou shalt remember that for everything there is a ‘too much’. Thus thou shalt not be excessive in anything you do (unless you have a really really – really – good reason for it)”

Porn is not evil. Never was. God made us horny.
Did you know that there is a strong inverse correlation between the number of (male on female) rapes and the availability of porn in an area?
Porn helps us stay good.
Porn does no more harm to people than anything else. On the contrary. It helps men keep the balance.
Excessive use of porn, now, that would be a different thing.

Because of the “excessive”, you see?

example for a feminist witch hunt

Yet another example that all ideologies are silencing, single-minded, intolerant and thus bad.
The return of the heretic.

How feminism killed my favourite comic strip

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I discovered the strip “Sinfest” a few years ago and was an instantly enthusiastic reader; the best thing I read since Calvin and Hobbes. Ishida really can draw and all characters, as far as I am concerned, were lovingly portrayed, even the ones that every time evoked the reaction “I can’t believe you just did that…”
Sinfest, although handling adolescent to adult topics, had that attitude that makes Pooh the best children’s book of all time.*

Slick
Slick used to be the main character of the strip. In concept vaguely similar to Charlie Brown in that he never gets what he most desires. He likes to see himself as slick and suave, while women see him as small and vulgar.



Yes, Ishida loves to draw cute and sexy girls. Possibly what sealed his later fate 😦

’Nique
Nique started out as love- and lust-interest of Slick but developed her own character. Young, pretty, into arts and save-the-world-attitudes; to a certain extent a stereotypical girl. It remains unclear why exactly she is and stays single.




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Belief in the Devil

I just read this:

Mass movements may well start and flourish without a belief in God. But never without a belief in the Devil.

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These are more or less arbitrary hits on the first Google page of “men are evil”.

What does “loving” mean?

Just a short thought: imagine a parent with several children. But there is one child that is his or her absolute favourite. The other children will be punished when they diss him in any way. college tuition and other support will only be paid for this one child.

Would that one child think that his parent is “loving”?

And isn’t that how Christians see their God?

To make sure: This is meant as a serious question. If your first reaction is “idiot” I would be thankful for you to take the time and tell me where the metaphor goes wrong.