Facts Conveniently Withheld  —The Github Story

Facts Conveniently Withheld  — Medium.

Although this is posted anonymously I have very little trouble believing every word of it.

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“There is NOTHING holding a woman back to become an Indie-Game developer” or Why feminism works

This is a female indie-game developer giving her 5 cent on Sarkeesian’s “tropes vs women”.

The video shows both: Why feminism sucks and why feminism works and has many followers.
In a nutshell: She – at first – found herself agreeing with Sarkeesian, because she recognized and acknowledged the described symptoms.
It took the ton of negative feedback that was heaped upon Sarkeesian to make her reflect if there was anything about “tropes vs women” that deserved criticism. And she found that practically all of Sarkeesian’s conclusions and accusations were for the trash.

And I think you can generalize that…

Women hear feminists describe situations:
– You have a lower paying job than most males you know
– You have to deal with sexual aggressiveness in a way that males don’t
(or alternatively for the ugly ones:)
– You are not appreciated as much as you’d like because of your looks.
– You have to find a compromise that males don’t in finding a balance between children and career

…and find these are all true.

I agree.

These are all situations that a man won’t be confronted with, at least not in the same way a woman is.

The problem is: Most women won’t do the next step, the step this game developer takes in her video.
“OK, feminism describes the status quo accurately as far as I am concerned. What about their theory how the status quo came to be? Does that hold water? Are their conclusions and accusations valid?”

My guess is that the cognitive process of practically all women who sympathise with feminism stopped at “as far as I am concerned”. (Which says a lot on its own 😉 )

Apparently it takes a “male” mind to question something that started out right.
A “female” mind apparently is satisfied with things that appear to be true. Or that feel true.

The difference between Truth and Truthiness.

Refusing gender-roles in action

This should be every feminist’s favourite comic-strip:

I wonder if it is…

Disturbing video. Watch if you think men can’t be raped

Why Rape Is Seriously Hilarious | Toy Soldiers.

“stop oppressing us”

Something I found on tumblr:

stop oppressing us

Feminist accomplishments, I am so proud…

I saw on tumblr a link to this page that praises “23 Inspiring Feminist Digital Campaigns That Changed the World”.

That, of course, made me curious. What is it, that feminists can be proud of?

Lets sort them into categories, shall we…

1. Ruining the career of or financially harming a man who said something the femosphere does not agree with.
1. Lululemon’s chairman stepped down
3. Reebok to drop Rick Ross
6. kicked Ken Cuccinelli’s butt
9. Rush Limbaugh lost a lot of cash

2. Ordinary Lobbying and Bullying
4. [get] iTunes to get rid of this really creepy app
8. Go Daddy stopped [advertising to their target-market]
10. Wendy Davis’ pro-choice fillibuster
11. Susan G. Komen reversed its decision to stop funding Planned Parenthood
17. BareMinerals stopped using [original ideas] to sell products
19. An ethics committee examined a judge [for not sticking to the law]
22. The ACLU is marrying five gay couples in states where same-sex marriage is illegal (see 19.)

3. Promotion of Censorship
18. Facebook was forced to take rape seriously
21. At the request of feminist activists, Twitter brought back the block button

12. Disney pulled t-shirts that assumed girls can’t be heroes
14. Harrods’ pulled sexist children’s books telling boys how to be “clever” and girls how to be “gorgeous”
16. Amazon stopped selling t-shirts

4. Advancing female-only interests and ignoring everyone else’s.
2. ‘SNL’ (finally) hired an African-American woman
7. A crowd-sourcing map now tracks sexual assaults in Syria
13. The president addressed the epidemic of sexual assaults on campuses
23. UN women revealed the alarming rate of sexism left in the world

5. er … so what?
5. GoldieBlox aired one of the first feminist ads in Super Bowl history
15. England’s 10£ note now features feminist hero Jane Austen
20. The fearless women behind Idle No More got indigenous issues on the map

Sigh.

These actions surely and truly will make the world a better place.
For some.
Perhaps.
Probably not.

I am so proud.

Another example for “feminism ruins everything”: Linux

Life in the OpenSource world before and after feminism, as seem by a female:
Girls and Software | Linux Journal.

Most of all, I’m disappointed. I had a haven, a place where no one cared what I looked like, what my body was like or about any ephemera—they cared about what I could do—and this culture shift has robbed me of my haven. At least I had that haven. The girls who follow me missed out on it.

I remember in those early days, in my haven, if someone was rude or tried to bully me, the people around me would pounce with a resounding “How dare you be mean to someone we like!” Now, if a man behaves badly, we’re bogged down with a much more complex thought process: “Did this happen because she’s a woman?” “Am I white knighting if I step in?” “Am I a misogynist if I don’t?” “What does this say about women in technology?” “Do I really want to be part of another gender politics mess?” It was so much simpler when we didn’t analyze so much, and just trounced on mean people for being mean.

More #ineedfeminism nonsense

I came across this site today while wondering if my post yesterday was exhaustive enough…

I feel like some snarky comments, forgive me.

Isn’t that exactly the strategy of feminists?

Why? I still haven’t heard a single valid reason.

What a pity it doesn’t teach grammar. “it defines myself” -.-
At least this is believable. What else could there possibly be to give any definition to these … ahem .. personalities?

Why do I have the feeling she is one of those who don’t tip when the pizza is 5 minutes late?

Act in such a way that you treat humanity, whether in your own person or in the person of any other, never merely as a means to an end, but always at the same time as an end.

What does feminism have that Kant doesn’t have?

Feminism is really up there correcting our priorities.

Anarchy!! Wheeee. Lovely. Why aren’t catcallers allowed to behave however the hell they want?
What? It’s more complicated than you thought? Well, I’ll never.

It isn’t.
Unless you try to participate in the pissing-your-name-in-the-snow competition.
Or are you saying that feminism has the power to abolish all profiling and pre-judgement according to group? I wonder when they’ll start.

Dogs, mice and birds. Tell them that.

Yes, you are. Not as pretty, but just as awesome. The amount of awe: tiny.

By that logic, wouldn’t women need the MRM to become fully human?

Indeed. Ridiculous. They could instead start arguing about men’s reproductive rights. Which don’t exist. As opposed to women’s. Who have extensive reproductive rights. Equality! Feminism’s watchword.

Lefty: There is no rape-culture. SUCCESS. You can stop supporting feminism.

Righty: What did you actually do to “deserve” that?

No, they earn more.

Awwww. An honest one. Not equality or some such bullshit. Just your common or garden egoist. If she needs feminism to get a job her qualifications can’t be that good…

Wait… Women have a clitoris … because of feminism?!? I didn’t know that.

Why not? That’s the normal way expectations work. When almost all members of a group proclaim that they hate doing x the rare member of that group who enjoys doing x and is good in it will surprise people.

Feminism will change the way minds work? Awesome. How will it do that?

Does feminism provide the best psychotherapists? My brain hurts.

How will feminism ever fulfill all those expectations?

Occasionally I prefer reading through the “I need feminism” tag on thumblr to doing actual work. So, too, today.

With most statements I wonder: “How is feminism going to achieve that?”

I see two solutions:
– enforce a quota among female authors that no more than, say, 15% of their books are allowed to be on topics that don’t interest boys.
– force boys to read books they don’t give a shit about.

Feminism, a force for a better world, I can see that 🙂

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i need feminism because all the media seems to be covering is the fact that taylor swift said “fuck”, and that miley cyrus’s performance was “trashy”. meanwhile, robin thicke, a married father, ground up against miley onstage, and everyone finds it a okay because he’s a man.

Ah, the famous double standard. It is easy for women to get sex. It is hard for men to get sex. It is hard for a woman to get commitment. If sex is scarce, it is one thing she can barter with.
Soooo, what will feminism do to change this situation?
They could try to change women so they don’t want commitment. Good luck with that.
They could try to change men to give commitment without getting anything special in return. That is work-in-action and increasingly failing. So it won’t work before women are convinced enough of its success that stop slutshaming.
They could convince ALL women to give away sex so freely that ALL men get all the sex they want. Bonobo society. Sex is not constrained to relationships and everyone has it with everyone else. Thus relationships would form for entirely different reasons, like people enjoying to talk to each other. Not very many relationships, but you can’t have everything 😉

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People don’t know the difference between feminism and misandry

Not all, but many feminists have misandric convictions. Having more of them will convince men that misandry ain’t real?
Is is that supposed to work?

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or, to paint the entire picture:

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This is a tricky one.
What will feminism do?
Find a way to abolish guilt? No matter what you do, you won’t feel guilty?
Establish at last the ultimate moral canon so that it becomes completely unambiguous what you should be ashamed about and what not? AFAIC that is what some feminists are trying. Quite a simple canon, too: What females do is OK, always. What males do is only OK if a female directly benefits from it. So far no one is adopting these simple rules. I wonder how feminism will force people to do so.
Or… will feminism teach women to take responsibility for their actions and own their feelings? Will feminism educate her that, if she actually feels guilty, at least part of her thinks she did something wrong, too? So, if she doesn’t want to feel guilty she shouldn’t do something she isn’t OK with?
Or will feminism teach her to grow a spine so that she is emotionally capable to defend her own values against those of others?

I don’t think that is the idea of the girl behind the paper.

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Oh good, this one is easy. Feminism will see to it that being an annoying bitch is the norm. Then people won’t notice it anymore. And she will be able to express her o p i n i o n s without anyone seeing any difference to all the other women.

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The first part is really difficult. How will feminism change the biological hardwiring of what people find sexually atttractive?
Ah, my mistake. She is talking about “beautiful” which is not necessarily the same thing.
But what is considered “beautiful” even though it is not according to nature’s rules (like Youth, the Golden Ratio or Safety/Home)?
Perhaps scarcity helps? So, feminism will make all women always present themselves perfectly made up so that a rare picture of a not-made-up girl will get attention?

I don’t think that would work.

Oh, this is hard.

Given the second part of her sign she seems to say: “I don’t make up because I don’t give a shit about men. And even if I do make up that does not mean that I give more of a shit than before.”
And the complaint apparently is, that men (people?) do not enthusiastically approve not being given a shit about.

Ah, I see. Feminism will brainwash people to like it when someone farts in their general direction. Oh, Utopia 🙂

Will this work both ways?
Oh, the other direction already works.
What do you know…

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… My self-worth should NOT be based on my weight, my desirability or my number of sexual partners and society needs to stop telling me it is!

An easy one for a change. Feminism simply needs to explain to her that her self-worth does indeed not need to be based on any of those things. Her worth to others on the other hand may well be.
And that is in fact what society is telling her. Self-worth ≠ worth to others. Simple. Even a young feminist might understand that if older feminists explain it in short words 🙂

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Women fear that I’ll hurt them “just because” I’m a man

Oh dear, oh dear, this might be hopeless.
It was feminism who convinced women that you will hurt them just because you’re a man. Women never believed that before feminism.

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Tricky. It is dangerous for everyone to travel alone. The dangers for women are slightly different than the dangers for men and feminism makes a biiIIIiigg bruhaha out of the dangers for women.
Also feminism is the mother of the conviction “I should be able to…”
So a feminist may really believe that it is OK to walk half naked through the streets of Kathmandu where any western women has the reputation of a slut anyway.

So, you think an ideology that inflates the assumption of danger you are actually in and actively works on increasing the danger you are in fact in, will help you because… ?

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Oh, that’ll be the day…

If feminism ever achieves that I’d be all for it… No sign of it so far.

Feminism dancing

Oh this is fun…

Background: I started ballroom dancing again.
The attitudes of the men and women (on average) are quite interesting.
Some teachers go so far as to assume that the woman is – of course – the driving force behind the pair’s participation.
The words “Men, you are the ones who must lead.” are a perpetually recurring mantra. Because most men there are not very good at it. In fact, most suck.

Why is this so? It didn’t use to be, did it? My impression always was that the men in my parent’s generation loved to dance.

Might this have to do with – gasp – feminism?

To everyone reading this blog it is probably quite obvious why women are so overwhelmingly fond of ballroom dancing.

Let’s do some googling (all emphases in the following quotes are mine)

This feminist explains:

I never feel so happy as when a gentleman is moving me, gracefully, energetically, across the dance floor, with style, with his own little flair. The men who can manipulate me to do kicks and spins, who, I can just position myself ready to follow and the rest is just dance… nothing is more fun, more amazing, and, I will add, more sexy.

Problems arise, if feminism is deeply rooted.

Another feminist says:

Once I began to be o.k. with being touched by a stranger (really it’s just holding hands…), I fought for every ounce of control I could muster. “What do you mean the guy leads? What about what I want?” my feminist beliefs would shout inside.

So I resisted – he wanted to turn left, I struggled to go right. He steered me to the side, I would attempt a turn instead.

Truth be told, we danced like crap – not because of him, but because I kept wanting “control” of us.

This is one as well who would not survive long on my dance list…

[Question]:
People must have said to you well you can’t call yourself much of a feminist if you’re doing ballroom dancing you’re walking backwards all the time being led around by a man – was that there within it because your piece of research – at the heart of it – is quite a bit about gender roles?

[Answer]:
There is sometimes an underlying current of can you be a feminist and a ballroom dancer. I mean for me personally you can be both and a sociologist as well because I don’t think walking backwards, following a man’s lead necessarily means that you’re not an active person, thinking for yourself and that it has a bearing on your kind of life outside of the dance floor.

But of course it is – it’s part of the standardisation that the woman is the follower and the man is the leader. There were quite a few women who’d learnt to both lead and follow, they had experience of both roles.

When they were following arguably that gave them an advantage over men who generally can only lead. There are examples of quite feisty women that wouldn’t be told what to do, that demanded being treated with respect, that would say I’m not going to follow you if you’re dancing off time, if you’re dancing the wrong steps in the wrong place.

Yes, the feisty woman. Dreampartner of avery competent male dancer there ever was.

The obvious incompatibility of ballroom dancing and feminism is a common strain upon the feminist mind.

“As a feminist and a ballroom dancer, I’ve had trouble assimilating my personal views with my passion for this sexist sport, where the man always leads and the woman always follows,”

Sadly the article does not elaborate how exactly she brings these opposites together. Only an example how her rationalization hamster every now and then can take a breather:

She said the highlight of her evening was when two women, dancing together, placed first in the merengue among 42 entrants

Brilliant this answer on yahoo:

I’m a feminist and I enjoy watching and dancing, ballroom. If I could lead I would but that’s not the way it is. I could do it better than many of the men I dance with. They don’t seem to know you can put your hand firmly on a women’s back to lead without being accused of harrassment.

Now, where on earth could a man have gotten the impression that touching a woman firmly might get him a harrassment trial?

The hamster at Stanford U is also quite strong. The roles, they claim, actually aren’t opposed to feminist ideals:

The main reason I don’t care for the term “following” is that it doesn’t accurately describe the role.

Women do not “follow.” They interpret signals they’re given, with a keen responsiveness that is not at all passive.

As with a language interpreter at the United Nations, a dancer’s ability to interpret signals benefits from intelligence and experience. Leads, if you want to make a good impression on your partner, show her that you respect this intelligence and experience. How? If she does something that you didn’t intend, recognize that she still made a valid alternate interpretation of the signals you gave her. She didn’t make a “mistake”.

No, don’t just recognize it. Show her that you know she didn’t make a mistake, by flowing along with her during her valid alternate interpretation. She’s dancing — try to keep up with her.

In other words: “Man, it’s your job to lead but only when you actually lead the way she wants to follow. Otherwise follow her. Comprende?”

Genius.

Summing up so far: women love love love to be in Alpha’s arm, as long as he’s capable of fulfilling that role. If not they give the man hell.

Things get slightly more weird when you are nearing Pro-level, as Jezebel reports:

Annetts paints a Halloween-scary picture of the competitive ballroom dancing scene: Snotty comments about her outfits, physical attacks, and heated competition over coveted male partners have led her to take a “keeps to herself” approach toward the social aspects of her profession. “Sisterly it certainly isn’t and sabotage is rife,” she writes. “I’ve been left battered and bruised as rival dancers have ‘accidentally’ pressed their stiletto heel into my foot or jabbed me in the ribs with their elbows.”

Yes, the Female, the gentle sex. Unless you have some competition in general or – even worse – over some alpha male.

The possessiveness of the silverback is also not quite to her liking:

… one even said he would not dance with me if he heard that I had a boyfriend as he should be the only man in my life

Ah well. If only one could pick and choose from the consequences of gender roles…

But why doesn’t the average man like to dance any more?

Captain Capitalism complains about the lack of leadership on the dance floor.

It is the men I’m seeing deteriorating in their role of leading.

Be it the fact they plain don’t want to be there, they’re tired or even their wife won’t let them lead, the trend I’m noticing goes beyond that. There is a noticeable decline in men’s ability to take command on the dance floor and lead. And I cannot help but wonder if it isn’t the sociological and economic environment that has led to it.

I see more and more men, who just plain have that defeated, domesticated look on their faces. I provide all the instruction, explain step by step what has to happen, and above all else explain to them they MUST pull their wife this way, send her out that way, they MUST LEAD. But when the time comes and the music plays, instead of a Steve McQueen like fashion, they look sheepishly at their wife or girlfriend and barely produce a slight tug on the girl’s hand, all the while looking at her for constant confirmation and approval they’re doing it correctly.

(…)

The women of course get frustrated (not only because viscerally women like strong men), but because the dance is structurally failing. They don’t know where to turn. The lead is so limp and the man so unsure, the women is forced to take over and turn herself.

I myself am pondering this explanation:
Imagine a man from lower working class, or even a slave.
This man is invited to play king for an hour every week. He can give commands for an hour and order everyone around.
But.
He has to give his commands in latin (which he of course would have to learn first) and no command of any real consequence is allowed. Only orders like “Bring me a drink” or “You, stand over there”.
If his posture is not quite regal or his pronunciation of those latin words is off, he will be chided.

How much fun, would you think, will this man have in being a king?
For an hour?
Every week?
But not really?